Letting something slide simply means to do nothing about something.such as another person's mistake or bad behavior) : to ignore (something) You were late this morning. I'll let it slide this time, but don't let it happen again.. This is what it means to let things slide or to let things go.
This particular trait has never been known to stick with my name. I am always the unforgivable one. Unless you don't step on my precious toss , I'll have to crash your already wretched toss with a harmer. That was the intensity of how unforgivable I was.
I have always been a person who normally gets attacked by many people. I know most of you might be victims of this. And if not maybe your friends have been.
Have you ever walked into a room that there are so many people talking. Everyone laughs when someone says anything but decide to snob you when you begin to speak. Just anyone at all rejecting you like that. It would be bad enough if ostracism just reduced feelings of belonging, but being rejected can reduce self-esteem, a sense of control, and a sense of having a meaningful existence. What's more, these negative reactions seem to apply regardless of who's rejecting you.
Even some people with deeper problems get to reject you and no matter how pity you may have on them , the hurt still remains the same
Facing all these things make you to develop a thick wall. You tend always to attack people probably because you feel they would attack. Of course this is not your fault but you cannot always stay like this. It's really rude and annoying to those who genuinely do not intend to hurt you. Do you know how rude I have been to people just because I felt they would say things I didn't like. Just recently , I gave it to one of my good friends ( Kassim Harrison) I attacked him just because he asked my WHY, WHAT FOR?. After I had requested for his email address . This shows the extent to which one can go in order for them to feel comfortable in their own skin.
My good friend ( lily Naa Sowah ) always used to tell me that I am who I am and she is happy with that. But I should always have it at the back of my big head that not all people will agree or support what I do and hence the length to which I strech issues be reduced.
One wise man believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us. Ampa ooo. 😂 I have always been difficult about these things.
We replay past mistakes over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.
There will never be a time when life is simple. There will always be time to practice accepting that. Every moment is a chance to let go and feel peaceful. Here are some ways to get started:
Let Go Of Frustration with Yourself/Your Life
1. Learn a new skill instead of dwelling on the skills you never mastered. I've never known how to play football so I'd rather focus on my writing and other stuff.
2. Change your perception—see the root cause as a blessing in disguise.
3. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis, crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.
4. Channel your discontent into an immediate positive action—make some calls to your friends and talk the tension out.
5. Use meditation or listen to your favorite song be it shatawale or stonebwoy or in my case Ariana Grande to bring you into the present moment (instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future).
6. Make a list of your accomplishments—even the small ones— and add to it daily. You’ll have to let go of a little discontentment to make space for this self-satisfaction.. I always say that even if I have nothing, I have parents who love me just the way I am. And oo am super handsome 😂😂
7. Visualize a box in your head labeled “Expectations.” Whenever you start dwelling on how things should be or should have been, mentally shelve the thoughts in this box.
8. Engage in a physical activity. Exercise decreases stress hormones and increases endorphins, chemicals that improve your state of mind.
9. Focus all your energy on something you can actually control instead of dwelling on things you can’t.
10. Express your feelings through a creative outlet, like blogging or painting. Add this to your to-do list and cross it off when you’re done. This will be a visual reminder that you have actively chosen to release these feelings.
Let go of Anger and Bitterness
11. Feel it fully. If you stifle your feelings, they may leak out and affect everyone around you—not just the person who inspired your anger. Before you can let go of any emotion, you have to feel it fully.
12. Give yourself a rant window. Let yourself vent for a day before confronting the person who troubled you. This may diffuse the hostility and give you time to plan a rational confrontation.
13. Remind yourself that anger hurts you more than the person who upset you, and visualize it melting away as an act of kindness to yourself.
14. If possible, express your anger to the person who offended you. Communicating how you feel may help you move on. Keep in mind that you can’t control how the offender responds; you can only control how clearly and kindly you express yourself.
15. Take responsibility. Many times when you’re angry, you focus on what someone else did that was wrong, which essentially gives away your power. When you focus on what you could have done better, you often feel empowered and less bitter.
16. Put yourself in the offender’s shoes. We all make mistakes, and odds are you could have easily slipped up just like your husband, father, or friend did. Compassion dissolves anger.
17. Metaphorically throw it away. For example, jog with a backpack full of tennis balls. After you’ve built up a bit of rush, toss the balls one by one, labeling each as a part of your anger. (You’ll need to retrieve these—litter angers the earth!)
18. Use a stress ball, and express your anger physically and vocally when you use it. Make a scrunched up face or grunt. You may feel silly, but this allows you to actually express what you’re feeling inside.
19. Wear a rubber band on your wrist and gently flick it when you start obsessing on angry thoughts. This trains your mind to associate that type of persistent negativity with something unpleasant.
20. Remind yourself these are your only three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. These acts create happiness; holding onto bitterness never does.
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That's the absolute truth. We all need to learn how to let things go. Those things are only toxic to our bodies
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